Mother is not an intransitive verb. part 2
The days still go on, as they usually do for all mothers. These days I’ve been asked if my chronicles, which so much encourage women to understand themselves in their multiple identities and seek the wholeness of who they are, don’t encourage the famous “wonder woman syndrome” that leads to illness and inevitable guilt. and the failure of so many women. On the contrary, I answer with certainty.
For us, Maternar is not just an accumulation of tasks to give to SOMEONE ELSE what we are capable of, but a reimagining of personal and collective life for a fairer distribution of childcare and household tasks. You have to learn in this regard BASIC and INCLUSIVE say “NO” in certain situations that only contribute to more work and fatigue. This does not prevent our daily lives from continuing to be full of tasks to be completed. The point is that we begin to see the meaning and essence of what we do. When we are in action, Maternar allows us to be whole. It is a deeply complex thing, because it depends on the collective to begin to change the perception of the existence of children in society, and therefore the public responsibility for their upbringing, and not only mothers.
I often write with children around me, constantly interrupting me; Other times I “brother” one of my family because this year here at home was “seasoned” with accidents and illnesses. It happened that I was hospitalized while writing. On all these occasions, love and care were the pulsating energy in the speeches, the mess and the display of love.
When I traveled to compete in Miss Beauty International, my little one got sick. I followed the saga: doctors, medicine, love far and near. Called and texted and knew he was well taken care of. When I came back, we slept together. He was always sure of my love and was very proud of the award I won. Today he walks around the house with a staff in one hand and a book in the other. he knows that he can be and have several worlds in him, and I laugh softly, almost in prayer, thanking him for expanding his little one. world
In order to be able to be what we want, we need to be presented with options, to live in a wide horizon. And that’s exactly what I want them to see in their mother: a whole universe of possibilities. As I said in the first part and I repeat. “The mother is not defined by herself. mother is not an intransitive verb. Our happiness does not depend on living a fairy tale every day, but on making life a place where we want to be every moment.
And now I add one more question. How can you transform your environment so that it becomes a “Mothering” place, and how will this allow you to be more whole and fulfilled in your motherhood? Send me your reflection.
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