Mucho te we hablado de las toxic relationships, esas de las que conviene alejarse. But when the problem is very close, in our own family? Can family relationships become toxic? “All relationships can become toxic, especially the most intimate ones,” Ángel Luis Guillén, director of Psicopartner, tells us fully. Starting from this evidence, we can undoubtedly find ourselves, therefore, facing very complex situations in the family environment.
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Pay attention to these signs
Identifying the problem is important, of course. Therefore, being highly dependent on certain cues can signal to us that we are living in a toxic family environment. The psychologist explains to us that these symptoms tend to coincide in all types of toxic relationships. “The first sign that we are in a toxic relationship, whatever it is, is anxiety that produces usthe malaise, already in the form of guiltuncertainty or even sadness, anxiety, anger…,” he explains.
In addition, it is necessary to keep in mind that there is not only one model of a toxic family, but that we can encounter several. In fact, as Angel Luis Guillén tells us, there are as many types of toxic families as there are people and dysfunctional environments or dysfunctional.
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Characteristics common to these families
This is all, although there is a wide variety of situations, if we can find common characteristics or characteristics that define this type of family. They are the following:
- One of the most important is her lack of communication🇧🇷 “Toxic families tend to feel very united under the domain of one member, which creates insecurity and a lack of self-identity for each member individually. Authority and demand abound. There is a lot of control over why people become avoidant, secretive and lying,” explains the psychologist.
- Also in the toxic family there are many conflictsusually resulting from the lack of freedom of the members with the subsequent fatigue leading in some cases to violence, psychological and/or physical, which is another characteristic or manifestation of the toxic family.
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Living in a toxic environment
What consequences can having a toxic family have on us on a psychological level? “Because any toxic relationship can cause us anxiety, discomfort, boredom, irritability, restlessness, depression… there is no limit,” the expert points out.
In search of solutions
The key question is, once we’ve discovered the problem, what can we do? “Whenever possible, we will try to play our part in resolving conflicts and improving the family climate assertiveness🇧🇷 But if we have already tried and things have not developed, we must move on to self-defense, to maintaining an emotional balance”, commented the psychologist. And if the toxic family is politics, is it more complicated then? “It can also be very complicated because it adds instability to the couple. In any case, we must place ourselves safely and not come into conflict. When we react to conflict (abuse, manipulation, or whatever), we feed off that conflict. It’s better to keep your cool, stop, distance yourself and think,” she clarifies.
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¿Quedarse o huir?
Finally, we know that when a relationship is toxic, it may need to break up, even if it happens on a family level? “Of course, even with a priest or a son, there is learn to set boundaries and keep your distance🇧🇷 If a person thinks he can’t do it alone, it’s better to seek help from a professional,” says the expert.